258. Authorship, Reality Creation & Reclaiming Your Creative Power with Katie Laporte

In this episode of the Embodied Writing Warrior Podcast, I’m joined by Katie Laporte for a powerful conversation on authorship, reality creation, gratitude, creativity, embodiment, and reclaiming your role as the author of your own life.

Katie is someone whose insights around creativity, authorship, and creating your own reality deeply inspired me to take a six-month social media break so I could come back to my own creativity, deep work, and inner authority. This conversation is such a perfect fit for this show because we explore what it really means to stop being authored by the outside world and start creating your life from the inside out.

Together, we talk about the difference between awareness and authorship, why your words and agreements shape your reality, how creativity and making things with your hands can become part of healing, and why the body has to come with you when you are shifting into a new identity.

We also explore gratitude as a full-body practice, movement and dance as tools for creative women with high-voltage energy, and the responsibility and freedom of choosing who you become in relationship to your past.

This episode is for the creative woman, writer, entrepreneur, artist, mother, or deep feeler who is ready to reclaim her power, stop outsourcing her reality, and remember that she is the author now.

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SPEAKER_00 0:00

Welcome to Embodied Writing Warrior, a show for women who refuse the white knuckle wellness and crave food freedom built for real life, where your fire gets fame knocked in. Fall in lust with your own momentum and enjoy pleasure-led creativity. Because healing was never meant to be a full-time job. I'm Kayla, writer and help coach God Row. Now let's make consistency feel like foreplay. Hello and welcome back to another episode of the Embodied Writing Warrior Podcast. We have another guest episode, something we haven't done in a while. Today I am joined by Katie Laporte, and I am so happy to have her on here because she is someone who has deeply inspired me through her work around authorship, creating your own reality, and reclaiming your creative power, especially if you are a high-performing woman with a lot of energy, a lot of intensity, a lot of emotion. Katie is the person who really inspired me to take a six-month social media break so I could actually come back to my own creativity, my own deep work, and also my own inner authority. And if you've been in my world for a while, you know that this is a big deal. I believe there is something so powerful about stepping away from the noise long enough to ask, what do I want to create? What am I here to say? Where have I maybe been outsourcing my reality? And where have I been letting the outside world author me? And how do I then come back to my work, my stories, my creativity, and the life that is actually mine? If these questions resonated with you, then Katie is here to help you answer them. This conversation is such a perfect fit for the show. We talk about all things authorship, embodiment, gratitude, healing through creativity, moving your body, and the power of deciding that you are the author of your life now. Katie has such a grounded and magical way of speaking about these concepts. So this conversation is deep and gritty, creative, it's honest, and it's full of those little truth bomb moments that make you just want to like put your hand on your heart and be like, okay, I'm back. I'm taking the pen back. Let's go. So if you've been feeling called back to your own creativity, your own voice, your own power, this episode is for you. Let's dive in. Hello, Katie, and welcome to the Embodied Writing Warrior podcast. Thank you. I'm so excited to be here. I am so excited to have you. So I requested to have you on here because you are such a powerful thought leader around authorship, around creating your reality. And I knew you would have a lot of wisdom and magic to bring to this show. So why don't you share a little bit about who you are and some of the work you do in the world because you wear many hats, and that's really cool as well.

SPEAKER_01 3:39

I would say to wrap up who I am, this short version is a devoted student of this life. And I didn't know that for the first 28 years of my life. I front loaded my life with a lot of trauma. And for the last 17 years, once my first son came into my body and I knew it was time to drastically change my life, I made a commitment to myself to never stop learning and to my boys to break the cycles that I grew up in. And literally that's what I've been doing ever since. And a lot of that came through making with my hands, creating through many different mediums as a self-taught artist. And also, you know, a ton of reading, a ton of investing in myself, experimenting in business, being willing to fail, being willing to be really messy and share my journey along the way. I've I've shared pretty much all parts of it through social media. And yeah, I'm just I'm just a student. I'm endlessly curious. I I love Earth's life. I love being human. I love this planet. And so I'm always just like in this really cool conversation with life.

SPEAKER_00 5:01

So, what was it like to go from that to someone who does have this gratitude, this deep reverence for life and everything it's bringing you? What's that journey been like?

SPEAKER_01 5:15

It has been gritty. It has been, like I said, just really messy. I've learned from my mistakes. I'm someone that can stack a full room with all of my failures and just getting back up and being willing and forgiveness, really truly deeply allowing myself to forgive myself for the rules that I played when I was in that first 28 years of my life and and beyond as well. Like I'm not anywhere, I don't even love the word perfect, but I am always an evolving human. And I learned over time, and I think especially through motherhood, what innocence we come into the world with as children. And that through my journey of motherhood, I was able to see my parents and other parents and other, you know, just people. Like I was a kid too when I had kids, essentially. And I was just learning how to be a mom with all of the things that I had, you know, experienced. And like the more presence, the more awareness, the more, you know, I will say it, gratitude and just willingness to learn, you know. I think there's these moments in our lives where when we make an intentional promise to ourselves, like I decided to never stop learning. Like I literally think that was a magic spell that shifted my whole universe around because I was given so many opportunities through my own vessel and through motherhood and life and business to continue to learn. And um I also came from a lens where I was not a good student. I got kicked out of classes and like I was a class clown. And because of how I was living at home and all of that, there was, there just wasn't that structure. So I brought it into school. And so I was willing to learn life in a different way and not have like it more, it's more like street cred, street smarts, like just really being gritty in life. And you know, I didn't do a ton of talk therapy, I didn't do a lot of like the modalities that we are supposed to do to heal our trauma. I just kept showing up in life. My my one friend says, I just kind of like DIY'd it and just the more present you allow yourself to be with what is, with who's in front of you, with everything that they offer, you just get skilled at learning humanity and forgiving and compassion and not take everything so fucking seriously.

SPEAKER_00 8:19

It's a really hard part for a lot of people, but like you said, laughter and play, and realizing that that thing we got so butthurt about yesterday, we're probably gonna laugh about a month or two from now, or a year, depending on the severity. So I love that. And I want to hear more about your DIY journey. So a lot of people do the talk therapy, more of the traditional modalities, and yours sounds like it was more gritty. It was this is what life's handing out to me, and this is how I'm going to work with it. So, can you share a little bit about that process or what some of the biggest things were that helped you move forwards?

SPEAKER_01 9:00

I would have to say that hands down, making with my hands. I came in, and this is where you and I really related when we met. Like we carry a lot of intense creative energy. And that was something that it didn't know how to flow. I mean, it did know how to flow. It choose, it chose ways to flow that were like harmful to myself and others in the first 28 years of my life. And so really directing that energy with making things with my hands and also being a mother. And I will always forever swear by reading books, like physical books. To me, that's somatic healing. To me, there is something in that exploration, in that willingness to be disciplined and sit down and read and you know, underline, make your little codex in the side, and like, you know, just having that relationship with books, with information, with teachers. And like, I've also I didn't take the traditional path in like a lot of the talk therapy, although I have done it. I I've done it in spurts, I've done one of the most pack impactful for me was EMDR. And you know, moving my body and dance has been incredible because again, it comes back to like women like us who have an incredible amount of creative energy. I don't sit and meditate in the way that you know we're taught. I don't do a lot of things that the quote unquote health and wellness and spiritual culture offers us. I just found my own way. I kept promising myself every day. I kept getting back up and getting back up and loving myself and loving my kids and fucking having incredible gratitude for this life and just trusting the path.

SPEAKER_00 11:06

You touched on something that is so beautiful that I want to highlight for this audience because this audience also high-performing creatives, a lot of energy, a lot of intensity. And I think in a lot of circles, that gets shamed because of the ways it can come out sideways. So I love that you have found this artistic endeavor in working with your hands. And for me, that's very much writing and movement as well. So I think that's just one thing I want to highlight is that for anyone listening with a lot of this high voltage energy that can come out in some disruptive ways, creative pursuits, physical movements that you love might be some of the most healing things you can do.

SPEAKER_01 11:52

I would a hundred percent agree. I just got chills everywhere. And I would also highly recommend dance as you know, a free movement because I, you know, I played a lot of sports. I played a lot of intense contact sports growing up. And I know a lot of us can like tend to want to lift weights. And for me, there is, I see, like when you're walking and you're lifting weights, you're doing this. You know, there's a lot of just like static, same, same, same movement, but creative energy is just like it is flow, it is flow. So I'm such a big proponent of like moving your arms freely and just putting music on. I love to do it in the mirror because then you're like really confronted with where you stop and where you hide and just really allowing my body to move the way my body wants to move and with no judgment. And, you know, ironically but not, there becomes a reflection of how you're willing to move your voice, your art into the world, yourself into the world, how you're willing to be exposed in your work and be exposed in how you speak when you start to really like move your body in that way, and you're looking in the mirror as you're moving that body, because you're just creating more space and more grace and more beauty for the way your energy moves through you. So, yeah, that's always been really helpful for me. I can tell when I haven't been dancing, that's for sure.

SPEAKER_00 13:28

Yes, I uh can absolutely feel the same for sure. So yeah, so we've touched on self-expression, and that makes me want to move this conversation into authorship and the power we have as creators, both in our creative pursuits and just in life in general, because that is such an inspiring thing that you teach on, that you share on. So, can you share about how people can make the shift from maybe awareness to going into authorship and just becoming that full creative power?

SPEAKER_01 14:06

Awareness is the beautiful part where we are able to witness ourselves in our agreements. I'm really moving away from the word patterns. I actually just did a reel on it. I feel like patterns lock us in to an identity where when we can objectively see that I'm still agreeing to think this way, walk this way, talk this way, dress this way, believe this way. It, you know, it's not like, well, this is just my pattern. It's actually an agreement that you're in. So the the awareness is the first part of the agreements that you are agreeing to. And the cool part is like, this is why I love metaphysics and why I love teaching the mechanics of how this realm works and making it way less fluffy than the manifestation culture has offered it to us, is because once you really start to see objectively how the mechanics work in reality creation, and once you can also see things like, well, I'm making it mean this about me, or I'm making it mean this about this scenario, or that about them out there, like you begin to see that your agreements lie in there. And so once you're the witness, once you're like, oh, I saw myself agreeing to that thing again. I saw myself agreeing to speak about that job, that person, like that again, right? You begin to really pay attention to some of the more mechanical pieces that are like, okay, you come into your center again. So, like that presence, that gratitude for like I love when I find a new agreement that I'm like, dude, I have not seen this like this before, you know, like that's another part of like the promise to never stop learning because I get excited when I find something that I'm like, oh wow. Like I love having my mind blown. Best, best chasm ever. Well, maybe, but like, you know what I mean? Like it's it's so good to uncover these things. And as we also study metaphysics deeper, we understand how impactful our words are. You know, you got word nerds here. Like, there's a reason why we love books, there's a reason why we love to read and write. It's because the words are creating a pattern, the words are creating a frequency, they're creating a language that we understand. And so once you're familiar from the awareness, from the witness position, from really looking at your agreements, you get to pull them into yourself and pay attention to somatically how that feels. Because through this journey, like, yes, it's incredible to have all the intellectual, mechanical ways that metaphysics work. But if you're not combining it with your body, if you're not combining it with the soma, you will not shift your agreements, you will not shift how you are interacting with reality because everything comes through the body. You know, your your agreements, your patterns, your perceptions, what you're scanning for comes through the body. So using your words, like what the I often like will bring my clients through this process where I call it forensics to start. I'm like, okay, we're gonna go deep into like a surgeon, all the language you're using in this area of life, in this area of life, in this area of life. So I get them to be really diagnostic and probably annoyingly so, like, but how are you saying that? You know, like because without the recognition and how you're speaking about, feeling about it, believing about it, walking it out, you won't be the author. You will continue to be authored by the outside world. You're not stepping into the role of authorship. So definitely like paying attention to the words you're using internally, especially, like so, just so, so important. And you also get to decide that you are the author of your life. And I think that's one of the most important pieces here, like, especially for women that are coming up and through midlife, like we have this incredible position that God has created for us mind, body, spirit, physic, physical physiology, all of all of the ways where God's like, okay, now you've lived this amount of time, and now your body's gonna do this, and it's gonna have an incredible bullshit detector, and you're gonna wake up and realize, like, holy shit, I've been agreeing to this, I've been letting all these other people author my reality. Where have I been? Da-da-da-da. So, like, you decide that you are the author first and foremost.

SPEAKER_00 19:08

Yes, that is such a powerful shift. And I love that you bring the body into this because there's so much mindset work out there that is just think different thoughts. But if you are thinking a certain thought and your body is feeling a completely opposite way, then I think such a big part of the work is to reconcile that. So if someone comes to, for example, and they have an awareness of an agreement and they want to start authoring their life differently, but their body is giving them a certain type of feedback that feels contractive or like the body itself is not in agreement. How do you start to maybe untangle that dynamic?

SPEAKER_01 19:55

First of all, I will teach them that metaphysics is by nature, you belong here in this reality because a lot of what we are, you know, essentially we're all scanning for safety, right? So when the body's not there, it's still scanning for safety. And the paradox of being human is that you're always safe and you're never safe, right? Like you could you everyone's heard it. You could walk out and be hit by a bus. Like you it there is so many unknowns in this realm. Like, that's just how it is. That's the game we signed up to play. And also while you're breathing, you're either alive or you're dead, and everything in between, you're actually safe. And this can when you allow things to be really, really simple, like you belong because you do, you know, like you would literally not be here in a human body experiencing this reality if you didn't belong here. And I often use the reflection of nature, like we can often look out at the duck in the water and see how peaceful and delightful and harmonious they are in their environment. We are as well. We are designed to create our reality. Like that is our water. So when you really I really bring things down to the most simple terms because often, and here's the saying: people have to be willing to like have their mind blown, have their perceptions, you know, how tight are your agreements? How much are you fighting for your limitations? Is definitely like one thing that I can tell right away when I'm with someone. Like, I can tell by their language, I can tell by their energy set. So it would depend on how much someone is really arguing for their limitations. When there actually are no limits, like metaphysically, there are no limits. Metaphysically, everything in your life from the moment you take your first breath to your last breath is on time. Like everything is divinely timed and always evolving. That's what this realm is. So I would explain and speak love into them that like so much of the gripping and the limitations and the scanning for safety is only in your thoughts. What you think about it, what you perceive about it, what your thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and perceptions create how your body moves through this realm. And then you bring in practices like dance or breath work or like whatever place on the past, the person in front of me is willing to go. Like I love dance for me. And I know that for women, getting into our hips, getting, you know, like we store so much in there and moving our arms and feeling feminine and moving that energy is so powerful because it like for me, it's a representation of like loosening the fucking grip on the safety that we think we need to have, right? There's no guaranteed safety and everything is on time. That like we literally live in a paradoxical world. What the one of the foundational things that I'm always bringing people to is what I call somatic inevitability. Right. So through really being in devotion to metaphysics, like the literal mechanics of how the realm that you said yes to coming to works, like, do you want to know or do you want not want to know? Because some people don't want to know because it's so confronting, and you're like, well, shit. Like now I have to be even more responsible for what I think, feel, believe, speak about. So it's I love to break it down so simply that it just you you have no more room for your excuses, you know. You have no more, you're just like, okay. You know, I that's how because I've seen and I've lived through so many iterations of the trauma healing world, the spiritual healing world, all of this where everything gets like you need this seven-step frequency program before you can like, no, you don't actually just have these few things that make reality really simple and go have fun. Like chill, say thank you, shake your butt, you know.

SPEAKER_00 24:53

And there's something so liberating in knowing that it can be that simple. Yeah. So what are some of the laws of metaphysics that people find the most confronting? Or on the flip side, the ones that are the most ready find the most helpful. Because I imagine it's gonna be one or the other, depending on the person.

SPEAKER_01 25:15

Well, a lot of the women that I talk to are they've been doing the work for a long time. You know, like the women that I love to work with are basically primed and ready to like they're in it. They know that they're moving humanity forward, they know that they're here on a mission, and they want to have epic conversations that change their perception on what they believe to be true. So ultimately, the one of the biggest ones is, and I don't state the laws like like Bob Proctor or whoever like states the 12 laws. I think more, and what comes through me is more in like mechanic, like an architecture of how you move through reality and how reality is looping back to you, because only you, the individual listening, will know what life is showing you. Even though we love like our blueprints and our human design and astrology, and like I'm a geek for all those things too, but that is also created through another human's perception, right? So your reality, the loop that is your recursion loop, like your orientation point will continuously be feeding you back the information that you require to create what you truly want. And the most annoying one I would say that people are like is like you create your reality, like just the actual simple truth of like, no, bitch, you're actually the one that created all of this. And then people are like, but what about this? And what about this? And like, yes, that's all true in your reality, you know, like all of that exists, and who you be to that, through that, with that, is literally what will change the seat at the table. I use this analogy a lot. Like we have different perceptions of reality in way in according to which seat at the big long table we're taking. But it's all the same thing. You want to be at the head of the table of your reality and be responsible and say, okay, I see that agreement. I see that agreement, I see how that created that. But ultimately, you as a human, a gorgeous, alive, abundant, like the technology that we live in in these human vessels is so fucking incredible. And you get to create your reality. And when you're fighting for your limitations, when you want to grip on to a historical pattern or agreement that you're you that you're placing on your future, you're gonna continue to create through that lens until you're like doing the work of you know, being with yourself in a different way, being with other in a different way, being with all of the reality in a different way.

SPEAKER_00 28:23

100%. So I want to go somewhere a little precarious in some circles. So I personally find that very motivating, that everything is created. There's this like powerful ownership that feels very motivating to me. And I know that there are some that might have some pushback on that, especially if they've been through like the big T trauma as a child, which I know I have, and I still find this a liberating perspective. But I want to speak to those who might feel like I didn't create that, I was four, five, six. Like, can you speak to that in a in a way? Because I know you're gonna have beautiful words for it.

SPEAKER_01 29:07

I also had experiences at a very young age, but what I know to be true is that we come in with a soul agenda, we come here as an experience to complete something, to experience what we need to finish cycles, to come to the realization within ourselves that on this human journey, we are the creators of our reality. And if people are willing to forgive, if people are willing to see other humans as humans in their own dense experience, if you're willing to come from a position of love, doesn't mean you love what happened. I don't love what happened. But the the trauma doesn't occur in the moment, the trauma occurs over years, over time, when you're ruminating and ruminating and ruminating on it. And you know, you are essentially agreeing to replay the things in whatever way, and you're scanning for safety and all the things. It's still agreements to be in a certain type of relationship with that experience, and so the freedom comes from okay, like I have an incredible half-brother who has an experience that you know is very different from mine. And he's in a in a home, he's schizophrenic, and like I took that on as a fault of my own. And what he taught me in this life, and we'll all have teachers in this way, was like, I have no idea what his soul signed up for in this life. I but I know that he would not want me to lose myself and lose my family and like just go, you know, just forget about all of that is good and free and alive in myself to try and save him. He has been such a teacher, and as many others, like I have no idea what my mom signed up for in this lifetime. And that's that's the permission of reality creation that we're giving others as well. Like people that perpetrated onto me. I have no idea what they signed up for in this lifetime, but I know hopefully they have transmuted it and it's changed their lives. And like there is so many ways that we can position ourselves to love, to gratitude, to forgiveness, to compassion, to fucking feel free. I didn't for a long time. Like the first part of my journey when I became pregnant and was just essentially coming out of chaos, took me many years to come out of that and reorient myself into a new way of experiencing my parents, how they didn't show up and all these other people, right? It does come down when you're an adult grown woman, it comes down to being responsible for how you think and feel and be about it, because it's not happening right now.

SPEAKER_00 32:30

Well, absolutely. And there's something I heard years ago about how if you're still holding a parent or a past perpetrator or something in contempt years later, you're still living in your parents' house or you're still living in that moment with that person. And what you're sharing doesn't negate the harmful impacts of that thing initially. And it's also reminding people that they get to choose their interpretation and they get to choose to have it be something that serves them as they choose the right perspective, not negating it and not negating the harm, but just choosing who you get to be in relationship to it, which is so empowering, especially if it was a situation where it felt like there was no power in that moment. So I love that you shared that.

SPEAKER_01 33:22

Yeah, you're reclaiming your power from the situation a hundred percent. You're not giving it to them any like any second longer. Hell no.

SPEAKER_00 33:33

Yes. Okay, so we are coming close to the end of our time together. So just a few more questions, and we've already given a few of these, but I always get my guests to give the listeners an embodied challenge of some kind, something they can take away and do after the episode. You've already given a few, but if you have like one more or want to highlight one of the ones you already mentioned, I would love to hear that. Okay.

SPEAKER_01 33:58

One of my favorites is to say the word thank you internally as many times as possible during the day. Like I walk around this life saying thank you as much as possible. I also use I love that. Like I love that this candle smells so good while I'm on this conversation. I love that my phone case has cherries on it. I love that I painted my wall pink because it feels so good. Like I love, I love that I get to have confronting conversations because I'm learning new skills. I love that fuck, you know, just like riff to the max on things that you love, even if they're confronting. Like I love that every time I pick up my phone, there is an opportunity for me to heal and grow. I love that I can learn to be patient through having three teenage sons that don't really like love to communicate that well. Like all of and thank you, and thank you, and thank you, and thank you. Like, like you mentioned at the beginning of the call, the way that I move with gratitude is because it is who I am. And that's you know, like I have lived a very different experience of this human journey, and I like this one way better. So I'm like, thank you, thank you, thank you.

SPEAKER_00 35:25

I love that so much because it's something people can weave in throughout the day, and I'm gonna be practicing both of those a little bit more. So thank you. You're welcome. And then you also have some really cool things coming up on the horizon. So can you share a little bit about what those are and how people can learn more?

SPEAKER_01 35:45

Yeah, I have two offers coming up in this month in June. I have one called Closet Confessional. And again, speaking to practical metaphysics, one of the most practical things that we do, and I I speak mostly to women, is we get dressed every day. And women love to feel good in our clothing and we create an identity through the relationship that we have with our closet. So the closet confessional, the question is who is hanging in your closet? Like, who were you when you purchased that? Who were you when you wear? Who are you when you wear this? Are you hiding? Are you trying to wait for something to fit you? Like, who are you in relation to these practical things, these choices that you're literally making every day that have a metaphysical effect on how you're walking out in the world, how you're presenting yourself in your work, how you're not presenting yourself, what posture? Like, I'm really getting forensic about the closet and providing some really insightful ways to go through your closet. Some of my clients have like officially stripped their closet down to like 20% of what they've owned because they're like, holy shit, like this so much of this has been unconscious. And then the second one, I am doing a workshop later in the month around relationships because I'm currently moving through a divorce, legal separation, and I see that there's a craving from the world to have a very different conversation around how to separate, how to be in relationship, even with friendship, job, all of that, like a literal metaphysical way to be in relationship to how relationships shift, how what your intentions are, like to hold the posture of someone that can be with anything that comes up through this, all that kind of cool stuff.

SPEAKER_00 37:49

Those are both very cool and very unique, especially the closet one. And I'm thinking about the fact that I still own clothes I wore when I was an unhinged 21-year-old going to the clubs, and I'm like, wow, that's that's interesting. So when people want to connect with you more and maybe find out more about those offers, where is the best place for them to go? I would say Instagram.

SPEAKER_01 38:15

You can find me there, and all the links and everything will live there.

SPEAKER_00 38:20

Okay, perfect. And I will link that in the episode description. So thank you again so much for joining me, Katie. This has been awesome. You're so welcome. Thanks for having me. Ready to stop outsourcing your inner knowing and crack your own code? Grab my free gift, Know Your Hungers. Discover the five hidden blocks behind your food struggles, and get a customized audio care package based on your results. You're not broken, you're just misdiagnosed. Visit embodiedwriting warrior.com slash gift or click the link in the show notes.